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Cock Whispering

22 Oct 2014, Posted by Aria Austin in Aria's Blog
Cock whispering

Tell me how your cock behaves and I’ll tell you how you behave.Cock whispering

Want it to behave better? Change yourself. You’re the boss.

As above so below.

The life in your cock is a direct reflection of your attitude, emotional state and life force. How hard you get, how sensitive you are, how deeply you can penetrate, how long you last and even your size will all be influenced by your inherent character. Yes, even your size. As you’re willing to bring more of yourself to life, you’ll raise your potential for getting more out of your sexual experiences in equal measure.

Do you have trouble getting/staying hard? There are all sorts of ways this will be evident in life. You’ll likely hold back from bringing all of yourself to your endeavours.

Are you hesitant about owning your masculine power? Do you yield when you should take a hard line? Try giving your full commitment to projects you’re involved with.

Why aren’t you engaging fully? What has you sitting on the fence? To be engorged is to be swollen full. Where could you reach for fullness in place of being half hearted? Is your breathing often shallow for example? Could you exercise more to fill your lungs and extend the limits of their capacity?

Are you measured in your appreciation of others perhaps? Try filling out your communication with exuberance.

Are you inclined to giving in or changing your mind rather than holding strong?

There are endless opportunities to bring more of ourselves into fullness of expression – laughter, creativity, ideas, enthusiasm, craziness….. Essentially be real and authentic in bigger ways that extend you. Be more you and back yourself!

 

Do you suffer from premature ejaculation? You likely operate at a speedy pace in life and often get impatient. There will be an urgency that drives you and keeps you from being fully present in the moment. You want more so you move fast but you’ll actually often get less because you skim the surface of experiences with your hectic pace. Practice staying in your body and alert to what is going on right now rather than to what you’re anticipating, resisting or craving in the future. Your mind will tend to gallop ahead to what may or may not arise. Rein it in to be in the now. That’s where life and sex come alive – in being present to exactly where we are. Often times the fastest way to get where we really want to be is to surrender completely to what is. Be here now.

 

Not lasting nearly as long as you’d like? Your appetite and stamina for life could be mismatched. Could your physical fitness be better perhaps? Do you tend to be more exclusively goal focussed rather than appreciating the journey? Do you tend to go for short term gains rather than investing in the bigger picture? If so, where could you practice delayed gratification? If you want to have more sexual endurance then you need to look at ways you can extend your willingness to engage more fully in day to day pleasure opportunities. Flex your pleasure muscle. Try sitting down for meals rather than eating with distractions or on the run – let there be more space for enjoyment and satisfaction from food. Consider making personal phone calls when you’re relaxing at home rather than driving in traffic – let there be more openings for hearty connection by paying closer attention to people. When you masterbate, take the time to cultivate a pleasure journey rather than a pleasure destination. Invest in squeezing the most out of every moment of your experiences.

 

Alternatively, do you have trouble coming? The level of our orgasmic peak is symbolic of the heights of pleasure available to us in the broadest context of life. Awesome orgasms will tend to correlate with a big capacity for general happiness and exuberance in experiencing life. A mediocre orgasmic response will point to a mediocre level of general happiness. The quality of your climax will be limited by the restrictions you place on pleasure opportunities. Again, how can you invite more pleasure in day to day? In relation to goals that you work towards in life do you tend to move quickly from one to the next? Try stopping to celebrate each milestone along the way. Take the time to feel the satisfaction of reaching the summit before striving for something new. Can you invite others to join you in your celebration? Or are you uncomfortable being witnessed in your joy? Perhaps there is also a tendency to put others ahead of you so that your needs get neglected and leave you depleted. Try leading with what actually serves you best and trust that you really do have permission to prioritise the good stuff. Choosing to do things that feel good isn’t selfish. That’s how we’re meant to live but sometimes we forget when we’re grown ups. And understand that the best way to be supportive of others, is first and foremost to be devoted to looking after ourselves. So remember to reward yourself and go for the juice.

 

Sensitivity is a precious thing in any sexual engagement. It will be compromised by physical activities like a rough or hasty approach to masturbation or to hyper-visualised experiences (eg. overdosing on porn). But additionally, sensitivity in the body will be reduced via stifled emotionality. Allow your emotions to have more air time and you will support the awakening of your physical responsiveness. There’s a correlation – feel more feelings emotionally and you’ll feel more feelings physically. Unexpressed emotions will lock the body down over time. Start to loosen things up. You might be motivated to know that it’s actually possible to heighten the level of sensitivity in your cock so that condoms can feel barely there. So let yourself cry, allow yourself to tell others when you’re angry and by honouring those feelings you open up new pathways for feeling throughout the body. Recharge those nerve endings via emotional expression.

And now to size.

Some men are challenged by being so generously endowed that it’s difficult to find a woman who can receive them fully. Or maybe you’re not huge but perhaps women find your depth of penetration uncomfortable in some positions. If you’re not being fully welcomed you might want to consider your approach. Know that the depth of a woman’s vagina is incredibly responsive to her level of arousal. The more turned on she is, the more her cervix will draw back and create the space for deep penetration. When it happens you’ll feel her surrender pulling you inwards. Invest your time at the beginning so that she gets to the point where her whole body is begging for you to be inside her. Don’t let either one of you be fooled by that invitation for penetration that comes from her mind. For a deep physiological change the invitation must be ushered forth from the depths of her womb, not simply the voice in her head. Know that women can equally fall victim to impatience and urgency. We can lose touch with just how deeply an awakening can be stirred in our bodies given generosity of time. In trying to keep up with men in life and in bed, many women have abandoned (or never enjoyed) the naturally slower feminine pace to arousal. This will often times short circuit the sexual journey so that either the woman can’t reach orgasm at all, or she falls far short of her inherent potential. A man who can reconnect a woman with her sexual essence by honouring and enforcing a slowed pace will be rewarded many times over.

Conversely, some men will feel they’d like more size. Growth is absolutely possible!

Just as woman can change size, a man can also. Tantric work will often grow the size of a man’s cock.  The more power and presence you tap into in life, the more power and presence you awaken in your genitals. Our energy informs our anatomy. Do you want more penetrating power in the bedroom to thrust a woman out of her mind and into the heavens? Then start by bringing more penetrating energy into your dealings in everyday life. Are you prepared to hold strong eye contact in business meetings for example? Can you push a project forward despite being challenged?  Do you have the resolve and endurance necessary to get your desired result no matter what? Look for where you might bring more penetrating energy to work or exercise pursuits for example, and see how the intensity is raised with your capacity to penetrate women. Penetrate meaning a variety of things; captivate the attention of a women who mightn’t have taken you seriously before, cut through surface resistance so that you get more access when you might previously have been held at bay, or in love making have the capacity to reach into a woman’s soul so that she surrenders into the wild expressiveness she might otherwise keep shielded. Penetration brings potency in all manner of endeavours.

To speak further on the subject of size, it’s invaluable to understand that size does not define the potential for pleasuring a woman with penetration. A powerful man of smaller size can arouse a woman deeply because his cock can be a potent extension of his towering energetic stature. A well hung man, on the other hand, who is tentative in the way he approaches the world will have that same subdued energy animating his cock and compromising his delivery. As women we can feel many things in you that can’t be seen. Trust in the power of cultivating energy.

There is so much more to a cock than the physical flesh and blood. It’s alive with your character and personality. You can look at it as a kind of Mini Me.  If you want it to serve you better then establish what you want from it and start doing that in life.